For the majority of us, writing and giving a eulogy is something we have no experience of, and therefore we may find it difficult to know where to start. There is no right or wrong way to compose a eulogy; each is as unique as the person giving it and the person it describes, whether that be a eulogy for a best friend or your fathers eulogy. It should however be positive, no more than 5-10 minutes, and if spoken from the heart be memorable and moving for all concerned.
How to Write and Present a Eulogy
Firstly, as you write down all your thoughts and feelings of the deceased, gather as much information from close family and friends, as well as their old acquaintances from work or even school as you can. They will hopefully be able to add to your own memories and stories. Writing a eulogy does not have to be done totally by yourself, getting others to contribute like this, not only helps you, but will make others feel like they are contributing, and may help them with their grieving too.
Looking at old photographs can jog the memory, reliving old times, old places, old achievements. Most eulogies tend to be written in chronological order starting with childhood and working all the way through the highlights of their life. Some pick one particular theme to follow, whilst others focus on just 3 things that were important to the person in question – family, friends, sports, music, drama, travelling – what were their particular passions?
Concluding the eulogy is just as important as the start and content. If you find yourself struggling, then perhaps a poem (see funeral poems below), famous quote, or lines from a favourite song would be appropriate?
Once you think you’ve got everything down, then as with any speech, it will need to be reviewed and edited, then practiced and polished, concentrating also on delivery and pace . Being prepared is one of the most effective ways to alleviate any anxiety.
Lastly, don’t worry if you become emotional during the eulogy, showing feelings at a very sad time is perfectly normal and healthy. Having somebody designated to continue with the eulogy should you become too overwhelmed, however, is always a good idea. Just remember that everyone there will appreciate that you are standing up to speak, and are with you before you even start.
Your eulogy is a loving gift to your fellow mourners, and it will be remembered by many for years to come. By sharing your honest, heart-felt thoughts and memories about your friend or family member who died, you will help to begin the process of healing that lies ahead for the living.
If you need more help writing a Eulogy, then try out www.eulogywriter.com.au for tips and advice.
Alternatively, if you would like to employ the services of a Professional Eulogy Writer:
www.eulogywriter.com.au will also write one for you (approx. £80), or
www.eulogywriters.com who as well as writing personal eulogies, also offer off the shelf (fill in the blank) packs.